Let's get straight to the point: I WANT TO GET MARRIED!
Yes, I said it, and it’s not a secret. I was that girl who grew up under an awesome example of a Godly marriage. My parents married in October 1994, & let’s just say that on one January night in 1995; it got real b/c I came out in October. Okay, so that is beside the point. The point is I've always wanted to get to married.
Here is the thing though; I wanted marriage more than I wanted to God. Oh, so I'm the only one? You see, I love God and all of that, but I loved the idea of marriage. I would stalk young married couples via YouTube and social media. I would spend hours looking at Instagram and Facebook posts idolizing the idea of marriage. Marriage is soooo much more than a big wedding, and cute couple pictures for the world to see.
I realized that I had fallen into the idolization of being married. I wanted to get married b/c I wanted a life long friend. I wanted to get married because I wanted to legally cuddle and have God-ordained sex. (Fix your face; it’s in His word). I wanted marriage for reasons some right and some wrong. I realized that I wanted marriage to fill a void that it cannot fill. I needed Jesus!! He is my life long friend! Marriage cannot replace the relationship that I have with Christ. Marriage cannot save me, and it cannot give me what I need from Christ.
I think we forget to think about what marriage really is. It’s a selfless covenant, which represents Christ. If you’re selfish now while you’re single that ring won’t change a thing. If you don’t like to serve now, that ring won’t change a thing. Ladies, this is for you because IT IS FOR ME: If you do not like to be told what to do in love, and don’t like to obey/submit NOW, then that ring won’t change a thing! Fellas, if you’re not seeking God and in true relationship with Him, and aren’t ready to lead, then that ring won’t change a thing. Okay, so you get my drift? Marriage is not just about the date nights, legal sex, pictures, and the cute stuff. It’s a life long commitment.
So my sister, you may have been hurt, rejected, mistreated. Your past may be fatherless or motherless. You may have been boy crazy like I was. Or you may have just always wanted to be married, but don't idolize marriage. God's timing is perfect and when it's time your husband will come. Men, your wife will come if you're reading this too :). God will show you who to pursue, WHEN to pursue her. His timing is so perfect. I'm talking to myself when I write this post, but I wanted to share it with you also!
Focus on the Lord, and NOT just to get man/woman, but also to truly seek Him & get to know Him. Have you ever thought that the reason while you're still single is because God knows that the moment He brings you someone they will become your God? Whew! Think on that!